Safety Plan for Domestic Violence
Protection from Violence or Abuse
Here, learn about planning ahead of time to handle dangerous situations, especially when someone is involved in an abusive relationship or trying to end one. Safety plans can involve physical safety, financial independence, and legal action.
What is a safety plan?
If you are in an abusive relationship, you should have a safety plan. A safety plan is a plan that you create before you actually need to use it. Even if you are not ready to leave the relationship, it makes good sense to have a safety plan in place. When developing your personal safety plan, think of it in stages.
Emergency Plan
Plan your escape.
If there is verbal abuse or threats, try to leave before the situation gets out of hand. Move away from rooms with just one entrance (bathroom), where weapons are kept (bedrooms, closets), or near objects that could be used to hurt you (kitchen, garage). Test doors, windows, elevators, and stairwells ahead of time to plan quick exits.
Call the police if you are threatened or assaulted. It is a crime to make a death threat or to interfere with a 911 call. Get medical attention. If you do not have insurance, funds may be available if you press charges. Photograph injuries over several days (bruises may appear later).
Plan where to go ahead of time. Call the 24-hour hotline at 800-799-7233 to locate the nearest emergency shelter. Shelter workers can tell you how to get a protective order. Alert neighbors to call 911 if violence is suspected. Have a signal or code word for “help.”
Safety Plan
Get a safe address to receive mail away from where you live. Make an extra set of keys. Copy important papers and store them at a friend or family member’s home. Keep a journal of violent incidents or threats, with date, time, and details to help you remember later if needed. Photograph your injuries. Keep an emergency fund where you can easily get access to the money.
Social media, computer, smartphone
Social media: Check privacy settings on social media like Facebook. Adjust privacy settings to hide your current status, mobile uploads, and photos from specific people. Disable location settings. Assume that anything you put online can be found.
Computer and smartphone: Lock your computer and smartphone with passwords for screen lock, your email, and your voice mailbox. Change passwords frequently. Turn off location settings on your smartphone. Buy a prepaid mobile phone (about $15) and keep it in a safe place. Save important documents, messages, and pictures from your computer to a portable USB flash drive (about $10). SAVE threatening emails, text messages, voice messages, photos—anything that would help document abuse if you need proof—to a portable USB flash drive (about $10).
What to Take With You
Most Important:
- Driver’s license;
- ID cards;
- green card;
- passport(s);
- birth certificates,
- Social Security cards (or verification);
- work permit(s);
- regular medication;
- health insurance/Medicaid cards;
- cash,
- credit cards and debit cards, and
- keys.
- If you have a protective order, keep a certified copy with you always. Give copies to your employer and children’s schools. Include a photo of the offender. Report violations to the police.
Also Important:
- Pay stubs,
- recent tax returns,
- property titles and deeds;
- immunization records,
- proof of car insurance; and
- court papers (divorce, child support orders.
Safety Planning With Children
Teach them that they need to stay safe, not protect you. Use a code word or phrase as a signal to leave, hide, or get help. Have them memorize your address, phone number, and how to dial 911. Show them safe places inside the home (locked bedroom or under beds) and outside (friend, neighbor, relative).
After Leaving
Know what's going on in court. Check the district clerk records in the county where the abuser lives. If the other person files a court case, you want to make sure you know about it. Contact a shelter for the nearest legal aid agency to get legal advice.
Secure your residence.
- Renters: Landlords must install security devices like window latches, deadbolts, and viewers (peepholes) on doors and sliding door locks. For recent violence or break-ins, landlords must re-key the locks within three days of notification.
- Owners: Re-key the locks. Test window latches. Install a security system or buy a portable motion detector (about $25). Check locks on garage doors and carport entries. Check exterior lighting.
- You may be able to terminate your lease.
- Consult a lawyer about your options to get out of a lease or transfer your public housing.
Getting Around
- Change your travel routes and travel routine to work and children’s schools. Use a PO box or a safe address. Shred or destroy papers before putting them in the trash. Change your cell provider and your cell phone number.
- If you must meet your abuser in person (to exchange children, for example), meet in a neutral and public location (Wal-Mart, McDonald’s, a busy park). Avoid meeting at either residence. Take a friend.
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Related Forms
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PVA-PO-100-Int