Your relationship with your lawyer is very important. You know your case better than anyone, so you should do everything you can to make sure your lawyer has all the tools they need to represent you well. Here are some things you should do to help your lawyer.
Stay in contact.
Your lawyer cannot represent you very well if they don't know where you are. Always tell your lawyer if you get a new phone number or move to a new address. Your lawyer is probably very busy and has other clients so will not have time to hunt you down. It is your responsibility to let them know how to reach you at all times.
Think ahead.
Before each meeting with your lawyer, think about any questions or concerns you have. Write them down and be sure to ask at the meeting. Also, write down any thoughts you have about services you need or problems you’d like your lawyer to help you with.
Keep track of your case.
Every time you complete a service, get a letter or a certificate or some other proof of completion. Keep a copy for yourself (put it in the back of this Guide) and if possible, make a copy and give it to your lawyer. Get letters from your therapist or counselor to show how you are progressing, and give copies to your lawyer. Sometimes, it can be hard for a lawyer to remember all of the details from each of their cases (they will have more clients than just you), so if your lawyer has it in writing it will be easier for them to tell the court how well you are doing.
Tell your lawyer what you want.
If your lawyer doesn’t know what you want, they won’t be able to represent you very well. This includes letting your lawyer know if you feel like they don't return your calls or they don't explain things very well. Remember that your lawyer cannot read your mind—they only know what is bothering you if you tell them. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to your lawyer about something, you might try writing a letter instead.
Be honest.
It may be tempting to lie about problems you are having because you think it will help you get your child back faster. But not talking about your problems will not help you or your child(ren). The truth usually comes out anyway. So, be honest with your lawyer about what is going on in your life. The two of you can work together to get you the help you need.
Ask questions.
Your lawyer knows that being involved with CPS can be overwhelming. Don’t feel embarrassed to ask questions. It will be easier for your lawyer to explain things to you at the beginning than it will be to go back to try and change something you agreed to because you didn’t understand what was going on.
Be persistent.
Your lawyer is busy and probably has other cases to worry about. You may have to call them a few times before they call you back. There is no harm in being persistent as long as you are also respectful.
Be realistic.
There will be times that you feel frustrated—by CPS, by the court, by everything going on in your life. It can be easy to take out your frustration on your lawyer, but remember that they cannot solve all of your problems for you. There are many things that only you can do, like completing your services, staying free of drugs, and showing up for visits with your children. The last thing you want to do is to undermine your relationship with your lawyer who is trying to help you and your family.
Express frustration.
It is better to vent or express any anger and frustration you have about your case to your lawyer rather than your CPS caseworker or your child’s lawyer or GAL (guardian ad litem). Your lawyer is on your case to help you and most lawyers understand you are scared, angry, frustrated, sad, or depressed. And most lawyers are OK with you expressing your sadness, anger, and frustration with them and would prefer that rather than have you lose your temper with your caseworker, the judge, or especially in front of your child.