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LGBTQ+ Relationships and Domestic Violence

Family or Dating Violence

This article provides information on domestic violence in lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender relationships.

Family or dating violence is also known as intimate partner violence or domestic violence. This article features information and resources for LGBTQ+ survivors of family or dating violence. 

Special thanks to the Texas Council on Family Violence. This is excerpted from content created by the Texas Council on Family Violence. 

What is LGBTQ+ family or relationship abuse?

Domestic violence or relationship abuse is a systematic pattern of intentional intimidation that is reinforced by violence or threat of violence for the purpose of gaining or maintaining power and control over one’s partner.

It happens in the LGBTQ+ community too.

Where can I learn more about domestic violence in LGBTQ+ relationships?

See the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Trans Domestic Violence: Information and Resources brochure created by the Texas Council on Family Violence. 

The Texas Council on Family Violence also links to resources for Historically and Systemically Oppressed Communities, including survivors in the LGBTQ+ community.

LGBTQ+ Domestic Abuse Myths and Facts

In its Information and Resources: Bisexual & Trans Domestic Violence brochure, the Texas Council on Family Violence dispels myths about abuse in LGBTQ+ relationships. Several are listed below.

LGBTQ+ Domestic Abuse Myths and Facts
Myth Fact
Battering/abuse does not exist in  LGBTQ+ communities. It is believed to occur only in heterosexual relationships. Domestic violence does exist among lesbian, gay, bisexual, and trans people and in other sexual minority communities. It is not a problem limited to heterosexual relationships. 
Domestic violence only affects certain groups of sexual minority people. No group, regardless of race, class, ethnicity, age, ability, education, politics, religion, or lifestyle, is free from domestic violence. 
Lesbian, bisexual, gay, and trans survivors can leave abusive or violent relationships easily. Battering relationships rarely are only violent or abusive. Love, caring, and remorse are often part of the cyclical pattern of abuse. This can leave a survivor feeling confused and ambivalent about what she or he is experiencing. Emotional or economic dependency, shame, or isolation can make leaving seem impossible.

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